A great distraction

The wait for information seems for many to be a painful and anxious period, well not for me. I unfortunately have the personality flaw that ensures I take on the stress/worry/anxiety of all of those around me. (A fantastic distraction during the 2ww assuming you enjoy little sleep) Tim and I have always been positive people and always without fail see the glass as "half full" rather than "half empty" figuratively speaking. This personality trait ensures that we attract a lot of people into our lives and this I love, I'm a very people and family oriented person (moreso than Tim) and at times I will even put our lives on hold to help other people. Is this a bad thing??? Well I personally don't believe so and Tim and I have such a strong relationship that it is not really affected. I get HUGE amount of satisfaction and happiness out of helping other people, in the past 6 months I have even gone to such extreme lengths to see others happy and smile that subconsciously I have been letting my own happiness fall behind at times. Anyhow I have something I need to get off my chest as it is causing me some slight negativity and I like to resolve negativity before I allow it to effect me.

Two people I consider close friends (as close as family even) have two great little boys. She called me the other night to tell me that she was pregnant which is fantastic news. Really very happy for her as she has wanted to have another child. BUT, he did not. Long story short, she wants it and he does not. Now I know that really this is none of my business and nothing to do with me, but there is a little something inside me that is creating the slightest amount of negativity and resentment at the fact they have kids and "clearly the ability to have more" while we must travel to the opposite end of the world and devote every last ounce of energy and emotion. As I said I'm not a negative or spiteful person I really needed to get this off my chest, I'm not one to tell another what they should or shouldn't do and she even asked me what she should do which my reply was "that I am too biased in my opinion right now with what we are trying to achieve with the help of India and that I can't answer it" I really think that statement just says to her in a nice way "keep the baby it is a gift that you can have them don't take that for granted fool" without actually saying that. Anyhow my "rant" is over now and I feel much better for sharing these thoughts and feelings.

On a brighter note the weather here in Melbourne is really starting to warm up and the days are longer. I could type for hours here but it's time to get up and go to work "bloody Monday mornings"

Thanks for reading and thank you to everyone who comments, I really look forward to hearing from you each and every post :)

Xxx

Chris and Tim 

And we start the wait again :)

Well October has come, and is now almost gone. So what's been happening? And please blog more than 5 sentences per month is what has been asked of me (my lovely Greek Aussie friends).

Well we started October like any other month, in that period of waiting for surrogate selection again. Dr Shivani selected 2 surrogates she felt suitable, then almost immediately requested 1 be changed out. Then as we approached the 19/20 October (proposed FET date) in fact the day before the original surrogate was changed out. There must be a lot of behind the scenes "stuff" that is assessed and the fact that both were changed meant there must be a good reason. So we were set for FET in the 25th October and the 1st November. EXCITEMENT. 

Well the 25th has been and gone.  FET was done, 3 embryos were transferred to S1. So everything imaginable is crossed for the bhcg test on 5th Nov. Next we are set for FET on 1 Nov with S2. It is fantastic having 2 surrogates but staggered by a week. The painful waiting is lessened by looking forward to more positive news more regularly.

Well it has been a really great month all In all. We finally completed the backyard (so there is a long story to that) but long story short 14 months of construction and work in progress is now officially complete. As they say good things take time. 

All that's needed now is the plants.

Work for both of us has been non stop. And it seems to only get busier this time of year. Last week we spent the day with our Greek Aussie friends in Melbourne. Had a great lunch at docklands, played tourist and rode the the city circle tram, to the old exhibition building where there was a hippy/yuppy/trende market stall style thing going on. He escorted MrsFizzyBubbly as she spent the $$$. We then headed down to a little cafe hidden in the middle of Melbourne for coffee and cake with a serve of window shopping. Then back to docklands for dumplings dinner. (A day full of food) And fantastic company.

Well that's all I've got for now. But I will try and post more regularly.

Thanks for following our exciting journey

Xxxx Chris and Tim 

FET Update

Ok, so I haven’t posted for a while now. We have just been patiently counting the days until we can “Take2” FET with 2 surrogates. Originally it was planned that FET would take place today, but both surrogates that were chosen were changed in the last week, Dr S is the expert and im sure that if she feels the need to change surrogates it must be for the best. So now we are scheduled for FET on the 24^th October for S1 and then 1^st Nov for S2. Fingers and toes crossed.

Thanks for reading our blog

xxx Chris and Tim 

September draws to a close

Well what a monumental month September has been. we have traveled to India, met many great new friends from all parts of the world, seen some amazing places and last of all discovered that a family is within our reach.We have a long road left to travel to fully realize our dream of becoming a family but we are certainly on the right road.

Well when we returned from Delhi we spent a week slowly getting back into the swing of normal work life and trying to maintain our excitement about the journey we had just started. We have really thrown ourselves into our work as a good distraction to the waiting game. So now we have 19 days until FET, i sure am going to have to work hard to distract myself over the next month. I have a feeling October will be a month of great things. We start to get very busy with work from now on and we are looking forward to that. Day light savings will start soon and that means more daylight hours. and warmer weather will mean more fun outside.

Take 2

Ok so weare all set for 3 weeks. This time 2 surrogates so now we just wait. We got the best news that our I D friends from Australia are pregnant x2 and we could not be happier for them. I even have a sneaky suspicion they may have 3 baby's in 9 months time. They have tried patiently and are finally have the ball rolling once again.

Well it's been work work work the past couple of weeks and I am guessing it will be the same for the next 5. We have to wait for the FET and then another 2ww. We shared our news with a few close friends and family (not this blog however) and it is great to have their support, however the down side is that supportive friends can sometimes be a little too supportive ans tend to want to jump the gun so to speak. I'm not a big "centre of attention" person. I'd much rather sit n the side lines, so the constant calls and messages at every step of the process was hard work for me. Especially when the result was a bfn. Everyone knew what date we would would find out and they would call and SMS wanting to know. I think after we knew that the result was bfn we just wanted to try again. We didn't want to dwell or "linger in the darkness" as our Canadian friend would say.... And each time a Friend would call and ask they would become all empathetic / sympathetic. I'm the type of person that needs to stay positive. Tim and I had set a plan in place and the advice and information provided by meg and margarida helped us do that. We knew what we could afford financially ans emotionally and we set our plan towards that. We were also realistic that there is no guarantee for the first time so we were also planned for that.

So for us, now we wait.

Thanks for reading and following our exciting journey.

Xoxo

Chris and Tim 

From a weak coffee, to an empty pot of tea!!

Well you know the roller coaster of emotion experienced is far greater than I had ever imagined. I'm not upset, I think we were fairly realistic with the odds on a first attempt. Let me just say that it was soooooooooo very nice that dr Shivani actually called to break the negative news. I think that means more to us than anything else. Dr Shivani said we could try again in 3 weeks, woooohooooo I can't wait. This time we will try with 2 surrogates. Why? Well we were going to try with 2 surrogates first try but for some reason only tried one.

So the positive to come from this negative is that our Aussie and Canadian friends who also had a bfn so we all get to start the process over and finger toes arms legs and everything else crossed we will return to Delhi at the same time in approx 9 months and 3 weeks.

Anyhow today is the day the I D boys receive their good news, now if I were a betting man and based on the statistics they are surely guaranteed the biggest of bfp's! And if ever anyone deserved this it is the I D boys. Guys if you reading this I am writing this at 2 am and I'm sure you both are wide awake as well. Anticipation for great things is keeping me up.

So what's been happening in good old Melbourne town??? Well work has been busy busy, Tim's business is still experiencing growth and new ground. His determination and approach to work has changed dramatically since starting this journey as his business is the one we want to focus on Longterm (it is the most family friendly). My business on the other hand is 24 hours 7 days a week 365 days a year. We have worked Christmas, boxing and New Years days for the last 9 years, not something we want to be doing long term with a family. Only downside is my business is the one that pays the bills and has provided the opportunity for surrogacy.

We have met so many Great people on this journey so far it is almost overwhelming. It is fantastic to know that we are not alone on this emotion journey. So to all in blog land and to all our new friends thank you for your support and encouragement, you all make the difference.

Thanks for following our journey

Xoxoxox

Chris and Tim 

Weak Positive

Well the 2ww ended yesterday. What a very strange 2 weeks it was, I don't know if it was trying to return to routine after being over in India? If it was the flights? If it was the anticipation or excitement about this next chapter in our lives. We certainly had without a doubt one of the greatest experiences in India, it is something that we will remember for ever. I think that was the people that we met that really made it so great for us. We wish that the feeling we felt in India sharing a new journey with our new friends would never end. Thank you to all those that we met there.

Anyhow our weak positive. We received an email from Sci right on schedule last night. I was driving along the freeway having just left work (where i was sitting mindlessly in front of my computer) waiting for this email, I heard the chime indicating an email received knowing full well that I don't receive emails at night as the normal, it would be it. So I grabbed my phone and opened the email to see that it was from Sci.......... Then I couldn't look at it until I stopped the car which I did on the side if the road,

Dear Chris,

We hope you are doing fine.

We would like to inform you that as per our schedule we have done pregnancy test for "R"

Please find the attached report for the same.

We would like to inform you that Rajni's beta HCG value is 9.82 which is weak positive.

In view of the same, we will repeat her beta HCG test within 48 hours.

As soon as we receive the report, we will let you know immediately.

We wish you all the best for her repeated pregnancy test.

Ok so I love the word positivity and all derivatives of such. So I'm happy/confused buy the 9.82 number???? Still reminding myself that the word positive is still there. Yay indeed.

I had literally just finished blog stalking and has read of another IP's experience with the 2ww or as it could be called the 4ww?? Ok positive is that they had a weak positive to start ans now seem well into a healthy pregnancy. Yay. Oh BUT (imagine me on side of busy freeway trying to search and read blogs and google from tiny iPhone with poor Internet connectivity) ah hahahahahaha back to the BUTT their weak positive was a much higher number. In the 40.0 if I'm correct. So I'm thinking to myself if 40 is a weak positive, then maybe 9 isn't so great. (If anyone reading had experienced this please give me some feedback)

Anyhow weak positive strong positive weak coffee strong coffee, positive is positive and we will be positive and thankful to the Sci team and our surrogate, as this experience has really been an experience of happiness for us both everything will remain crossed for the next test in a couple of days.

We were so very lucky and met some really great guys yesterday here in Melbourne. Initially before starting this process  I was concerned what people might think about what we are doing because of our seemingly young age (well that is one of the few negative remarks we received on our journey to becoming dads and wanting to grow into a family) we are 25 and 32. But this fantastic couple are exactly 6 years our junior at 26 and 19. Sounds young???? Well it is!! But meeting these 2 you would never pick their age. Both very mature and really great friendly guys. It is the first time in a long time I can really look at someone and have respect for them and what they are striving to achieve at their age. I only wish I had the confidence and maturity they have when I was their age. 

Our new Canadian friend was due to receive his results same time as us. Unfortunately his was a bfn. On the positive side he has more attempts with FET. I know he will be successful (just hurry up with that FET we have those rooms booked for mid next year...... Hahahahaha.)

We also met 2 Aussie couples starting the process while in Delhi. They have all become our little network of support. There is the awesome shopper and her wonderful "fizzy bubbly" hubby. Beautiful people without a doubt, and then there is the "I D" boys from a country land with limited Internet access. These boys are a true inspiration of strength and determination. Positivity and perseverance are words that I think they have secretly tattooed on them somewhere. You know we promised these fantastic group of people we would keep them up to date with our progress and the support in return is truly amazing. The I D boys had called me within minutes of receiving my Email of the weak positive and asking for their expertise and feedback, and for that I'm very thankful. And thank you to both our Aussie and Canadian friends for your help to understand this journey. 

Well it is Sunday morning here in Melbourne (four seasons in one day) I need to get up and mow the lawns before it turns from the spring sun into the winter rain if the day.

Thanks for reading and thank you to all whose blogs I continually stalk. 

Xoxox

Chris and Tim